KylieDawnHatton's Journal, 05 May 13

I think that we are always going to be faced with challenges around food and it is how we deal with them that are important - not only when the challenge happens, but also afterwards - we can't beat ourselves up because that just triggers the negative 'I hate myself' cycle. Well done on getting through OK and for not beating yourself up - and for not obsessing about food. I would be interested in hearing what you were feeling before you ate the 'sweet stuff' - what was going through your mind? and how did you feel immediately afterwards? 

Well done Kylie. I agree with Kerry about not beating yourself up about it. Also curious if having some sweet stuff triggered cravings for more? Enjoy Bon Jovi! We will miss you x 

Hey Karen and Kerry, Thanks so much for the supportive words. Eating sweet stuff over the weekend, reminded me how careful I have to be of its "power" over me. While I was able to step away from not going mad, it certainly raised alarm bells in my system that I was possibly putting myself in too much of a stressful situation. At a restaurant it is is easier to say thanks but no thanks to the offerring of a dessert, but when you are in the home of a friend who has gone to the effort of making a cake or special treat I find it really hard not to feel obligated to have something! I know that one of the ways that I show my love for people is by making them yummy food, so when I turn a friend down, I feel like I am rejecting their act of kindness - does that make sense! But overall - I have decided that my "indulgence" will be a glass of wine, rather than something sweet! Sweet things are a definite watch area for me!  

It's wonderful that you have the insight about what your 'danger' areas are. What about taking a mini-cheese platter when you go to friend's for dinner? And then saying to the person you are developing your 'savoury' tooth and would prefer to have cheese instead of something sweet. It may get expensive though - depending on how many dinners you go to! 

HI Kylie, I think its really important that you identify what boundaries you need to set for yourself with regards to food and try and stick to them as closely as possible. Try putting yourself, your recovery and health before your friends perceived feelings. Are you possibly people pleasing? I really dont mean for you to be rude or disrespectful to anyone but possibly try and preempt the situation by alerting your host/ess to the fact that you are abstaining from sugar at the moment, or whatever info you feel comfirtable in giving. see you tomorrow. xxx