So sorry to hear that. Depression and alcholism seem to go hand in hand for some people. I'm glad you're being practical, this is his struggle and he has to figure it out. You can lead a horse to water....etc. It's great that he acnknowledges the problem and has come to you for help. I hope things work out for the better and soon. Hang in there.
23 Jun 08 by member: kimbulie
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Thanks, Kimbulie. It's dumb that we NEVER quit worrying about our kids!
23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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You are supporting your son in just the right way. He is lucky that his loved ones insist he get help and don't make themselves codepents or enablers. Prayers are headed your way!
23 Jun 08 by member: RescueAGreyhound
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Thank you -- that really means a LOT to me! Received a daily scripture today of Matt. 6:27 "Who of you by worrying can add a single minute to his life?" I love it when I get something meant exactly for me! ha ha!
23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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That's neat and clearly not just coincidence! Love your new picture.
23 Jun 08 by member: RescueAGreyhound
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Thanks. It was time for a change!
23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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It seems that you are turning it into a positive. It is never easy to deal with depression OR alcoholism, but sometimes people need a wake-up call. (or two, or three) The important thing is that you do what you can and that you just keep loving him. I think it is great that you can reach out to his girlfriend because I'm sure it wasn't easy for her to deal with this either. Hang in there.
23 Jun 08 by member: sararay
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It's a blessing that he is aware he has a problem and the fact he can call on you is testimony to the great job you did raising him. My prayers are with you and him. I know it is a long process to recover but at least he has acknowledged it and made a start. Stay strong.
23 Jun 08 by member: juanab
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OK, Sara, I did write to his girlfriend just now. I hope she will write back. We really came to love her. Juanab, it's funny you would say we did a great job raising him. I guess we did, but I admit to wondering where we went wrong!! Thanks.
23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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Gramn, I responded to your message. I find that it doesn't "show up" until you log off and log on again.
23 Jun 08 by member: kimbulie
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Gramn, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family also.
Are you kidding? We never stop worrying about or children (or
grandchildren). If he wants to help himself, that's more than half
the battle. And I bet when his girlfriend sees him making an effort
she'll be back. Best of luck to you and yours.
C.
23 Jun 08 by member: carolann
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Kimbulie, your message showed up right away! See above!
23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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No, I meant the message that should be in your inbox!!!
23 Jun 08 by member: kimbulie
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23 Jun 08 by member: gramnbear
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It is so great that you were able to find such appropriate words of comfort (in Matt 6:27) and ones that are so true for everyone. We dont add a minute but we sure waste a lot of them worrying about things beyond our control. The only control you have in your sons behavior is how much love and support you can provide him. We have sympathy for people with diseases but dont realize that alcoholism is also an illness. Be strong and stay strong and your strength shall become his. My prayers are with your family.
23 Jun 08 by member: caged liberty
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Fellow gram, YOU didn't go wrong...he did, but he knew who to go to to get it right.
23 Jun 08 by member: juanab
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Speaking as a Mom of another 36 alcoholic, I think you handled it great and I know how hard it is!! And you are right, if you lived in his backyard, you still couldn't have stopped any of it from happening! Hang in there!
23 Jun 08 by member: misslala
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Sorry, "another 36 yr old alcoholic son"! oops!
23 Jun 08 by member: misslala
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Your new pic is so nice! You look so pretty! I am so sorry to hear about your son's problem. And you are right, he is the one who must decide that this is enough and stick with it! Stay strong. My prayers are with you.
23 Jun 08 by member: mbhpro
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I think you handled this sooo well. So many parents make it into their problem. You gave him the step that he needs without enabling him. That takes a lot of courage and restraint. I hope he gets what he needs. You and your babe (aren't they always....?) will be in my prayers.
24 Jun 08 by member: Paige E
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